One of the most common questions I get from people is whether they can use pheromones to get out of friendzone with a specific girl.
How many times in movies have we seen the guy “friend” that bottles up all his feelings for his girl best friend… and then explodes at some point about how he’s been in love with her forever?
In most movies, it ends happily… in real life, not so much.
As romantic as it sounds, most women won’t just fall into your arms after you declare your undying love for her.
In fact, doing this is almost guaranteed to end your friendship, create awkwardness even if you DO keep your friendship, and also give her reasons to avoid you.
But back to our problem: Can pheromones help you escape friendzone?
In short, yes, it’s possible to escape friendzone… but it’s not ALL about the pheromones.
If you’ve been reading my site for any amount of time, you know that I advocate working on yourself first and foremost… and then using pheromones as a sort of “amplifier” for your personality.
I suggest this because one of my pet peeves is guys who constantly buy great pheromone products, then complain that nothing happened.
And they only complain because a girl smiled at them and didn’t come up to them and start making out with them, or they didn’t get laid.
… It pains me to have to tell them pheromones are powerful – but they are not magic.
As awesome as it would be to have women chasing us down to be our girlfriends or to take them home, that’s still a distant reality from where we currently are with pheromone technology.
In my experience, they will give you a HUGE advantage over not using them.
But you need strategy – one which involves changing your inner beliefs as well as how you come across to the woman of your affection.
If you know me, you know I’m the type of person that likes to “go against the grain” of the regular train of thought.
The fact is, most people just believe what other people have to say about something.
Soon enough, it becomes the standard way of thinking. This is especially true on the internet with subjective topics such as whether its possible to escape friendzone… and most people suggest getting other women to make her jealous, to leave it alone because it’s impossible, and a bunch of other things along that line.
Over years of testing pheromones for men, I’ve seen and done some pretty crazy things that I would never have otherwise had the chance to explore if it wasn’t for pheromones.
Some of those situations included getting into romantic relationships, getting ex-girlfriends back, and yes… ESCAPING FRIENDZONE.
But before we even talk about pheromones, it’s important to understand that this goes way deeper than simply a pheromone product, or some “quick fix” to make her change her mind about friendzoning you.
In most cases, I recommend just moving on and finding another woman who’s just as attractive (or more) and starting from scratch.
Because it’s easier to get a new woman than it is to get out of the friends box once you’ve been put in it.
But hey, I understand… sometimes you’re just so enamored with a woman that it’s hard to get her out of your head. You just HAVE to give it your best shot.
1.) Understand why she’s not attracted to you
Follow the tips in the article I linked above about improving yourself… these are some of the “big kahunas” that you need to tackle first before moving onto step 1.
Chances are, if you’re reading this article you might have some lowered confidence and self esteem, and not think of yourself as “attractive” or “good enough” for this specific girl you’re after.
And that’s absolutely MURDERING your chances for success at actually getting her.
… when this happens, it’s common for guys to fall into a pattern of self sabotage in the process.
Deep down, they hold beliefs that she is better than they are, or superior in some way. They put that woman up on a pedestal because she rejected them, and see her of higher value than themselves.
The end result?
Women will FEEL that they are superior to you, and act accordingly.
When you’ve gotten to this stage, there’s a good chance you’ll ultimately never get her.
Women want relationships with men of high value – men that they can brag about to their girlfriends. That they can show off to the public.
The one all the ladies swoon over. The “one”… they see that man as BETTER than they are, and therefore are attracted to him.
There are some plain ugly celebrities that have women chasing them down, and it’s because they are of HIGH VALUE.
But you don’t have to be a celebrity – you just have to create SOME of the magic that surrounds them. That’s what we’re about to do.
If you think, feel, and act like a lower value male (and trust me, if you know deep down that this is your belief right now, she will also know). Women are very tuned in to something called “vibes”.
She will simply not feel attracted to you if you feel that you are of lower value than her.
That’s why I think getting women that are “out of your league” is just frame of mind. If you believe it, then it will be true. That’s why it’s IMPERATIVE that you read the self improvement article above.
So once you’ve realized this is true, what’s next?
2.) Change your belief system so that you TRULY feel of significantly higher value than her
Lot’s of PUA (Pick Up Artist) geeks try to hammer the thought that “I am the prize” into their heads.
But this facade quickly fades. The canned tricks and lines come down like a house of cards, and they lose their woman because they don’t have anything REAL to back it up on. You can hype yourself up with fake confidence all you want, but it will never work unless you build a solid foundation to back up your confidence.
Naturally, when you start building up your confidence and self esteem, you will start to think of yourself as “higher value”.
The key, in this situation is making yourself of SIGNIFICANTLY higher value.
You see, with most women that are new to you, pulling off a “high status” vibe is easy… especially if you’ve followed all the steps in the above article. You’re focused on yourself, you’ve got great social skills, you groom well, take care of yourself, and you are naturally attractive.
BUT – Since you’ve been friendzoned, the woman you are romantically interested in now sees you as lower value than what you are. That makes it a LOT harder to demonstrate your value, because she thinks less of you from the very start…
You’ve probably already heard of a few of these things already.
But here’s a small list of steps you need to take RIGHT NOW.
- Make yourself unavailable (I know, you’ve probably already heard of this little game). But you need to disappear, stop replying to texts, stop picking up the phone, and stop hanging out for a while… if you are not really friends, and just know eachother on a sort of casual basis this is great. How long? Don’t immediately cut off all contact, or she’ll think you’re playing games and you’ll set off alarm bells. Just start becoming distant.
- Start dating other women. I know, you’re probably still hung up on the girl of your dreams that friendzoned you… and while this is common advice, you absolutely NEED to take it seriously. I don’t care if she thinks you’re an asshole, or whether she knows about it or not… doing this will help tremendously with part 3 of this guide.
- Use Facebook to your advantage. Post photos of the fun, exciting, and goal driven life you are starting to develop (or have developed) from step 1. When she becomes the slightest bit interested in you – whether she is already or in the future, you can bet your ass she will come scrolling through your news feed. Have posts and comments from attractive women, and don’t be one of those weirdos that takes too many selfies. And also try to keep your posts positive, opinionated, interesting and more – don’t just post motivational quotes. You have the advantage of time, and you can write about how you want to be perceived… intelligent, funny, witty, whatever – try to mix it up. Take full advantage of it (I may include examples later if this isn’t obvious enough already).
3.) Use momentum to build yourself up, and completely forget about her
I told you, didn’t I? It would be a LOT easier to just find a new woman, who is interested in you from the get-go… but you just don’t listen 😉
Don’t worry, I have felt how you feel right now.
… but yes, there is still more work to do if you really want the best chance of escaping friendzone.
Hopefully by now, you have started to work on yourself and have made some tremendous progress in some major parts of your life – physically, emotionally, mentally. All the things I suggested work together synergistically to create something called “momentum”.
Creating momentum in your life is the feeling of making progress, growing as a person, developing character, and personality. To get to this point, you need to be 110% focused on YOURSELF. You will feel a deep sense of wellbeing and confidence when you reach this level.
So what I was saying before about distancing yourself from the girl of your affections remains true – you’ve now created some distance.
But now it’s time to take that a step further and let the idea of ever being with her go.
Drop the romantic thoughts in your head, stop crushing on her, and stop feeling emotional if you can’t stand the idea of her being with another guy (which most likely won’t happen within months of you dropping out of her life anyway). That’s why I suggest you work FAST in any case.
You will not be ready to see her for atleast a few weeks – or months, if you’re still not over her.
LET ME REITERATE HOW IMPORTANT THIS STEP IS: You cannot go back as slightly better – you need to be a whole new person to get her to see you in a different light. I told you, this wasn’t going to be easy. You can try all the tricks you want and skip this step. But it is only going to ruin your chances. Don’t cheat yourself.
4.) Space and time away from her + you not caring anymore + attractive new personality traits and vibes = your best chance of success
The above steps are a lot easier than said, but you knew it wasn’t going to be easy. By now, you’ve probably gotten over the girl you wanted and friendzoned you… and it’s not really even a thought in your head.
Maybe it took weeks or even several months to get to this point.
And if you can truly admit to yourself that you simply don’t care about the outcome anymore (of whether she ends up dating you or not)… THEN you are ready for step 4.
If you try to fool yourself, you’re only going to reduce your chances of getting the girl. Do NOT proceed unless you’re ready.
The next step is to re-introduce yourself as a new and improved “you”.
The reason I walked you through steps 1-3 so far is to change the way you think and feel about yourself. How people perceive you is usually a result of how you feel about yourself.
If you don’t respect yourself, others won’t respect you. If you treat yourself poorly, others will treat you poorly.
And the opposite is also true.
If you have respect for yourself, take care of your mind and body, do things you’re passionate about and make you happy… well then you’re going to be perceived completely differently. People will have respect for you and feel good being around you (which is also how you create personal magnetism, which I’ll talk about in another article).
When you feel better about your chances, you’ll naturally exhibit more attractive behavior.
5.) How to spark her interest in you, romantically
Hopefully, I don’t have to tell you that just because you completed all these steps, that its time to go beat her door down and ask her for another chance.
It doesn’t work like that.
Every friendzone has a different level of difficulty to escape (yes I’m aware this is starting to sound like a “cheat guide” to some sort of video game)… but the basic principles of how we’re going to approach the situation remain the same.
Like I said before, it’s time to “re-introduce” yourself.
… why do I say “re-introduce”?
Because you’re not going to be the same person you were when you exited her life.
You will be BETTER.
- The new and improved version of yourself doesn’t care whether she doesn’t like you, because you have other women who are just as attractive as her.
- You value yourself, and don’t have time for wishy washy behavior. You believe deep down that “if she ain’t choosin’, she losin”. Something a black friend of mine says quite often, and it’s true (he reads this site).
- Her petty “rejection” means nothing in the grand scheme of things… like the success you will enjoy in the near future (because you’re a goal oriented, charismatic type person).
Does that sound a bit over the top?
Sure, but it’s what we’ve been working on this whole time… so let’s talk about how to “be” when you actually do happen to see her.
You also want to check out this article about creating fallout/imprinting, which will further “embed” you into her mind… in a romantic way, almost like she can’t have you anymore.
6.) Demonstrate your new higher status and value (subtly).
Like I said, if you have Facebook, it’s great if you can get a following of friends liking your cool new lifestyle.
Create mystery and intrigue, and let small, attractive chunks of your personality run free online.
While she may not be checking it right now, after the steps below she will likely come around snooping to see what you’re like (especially if she is considering dating you).
Show good communication skills, humor, intelligence, motivation, goals, wittiness, popularity etc… but don’t be obnoxious. Nobody likes a show off – and make sure you’re original too. Don’t be a “negative nancy” and post about religion or politics or other sensitive topics.
7.) Don’t go out of your way to get back into her life
Try to make her come to you. You might try and find subtle ways to run into eachother – such as at a party, get together with mutual friends, starting an “event” on Facebook and inviting a bunch of friends.
The important part is that it’s not super obvious that it’s all about her.
You want to portray that even though she rejected you, you’re not hurt or bitter (which is why we did the exercises above). If you’ve followed the steps correctly, the rejection doesn’t really mean anything to you.
If a woman ever sees you all crushed up over them, its perceived as pathetic and weak. Don’t be the loser who can’t handle a roadblock.
8.) When you re-introduce yourself, make it obvious you are flirting
Before, it might have been a little bit awkward to flirt with someone who you knew was not romantically interested in you.
That’s another key reason we had to get you completely indifferent to the situation you landed yourself in…
Those emotions were an internal conflict that would have messed with your ability to attract her. Don’t just dive right in though. You should also talk yourself up and let your high self esteem and confidence glow – so she KNOWS without a doubt you are not the same person she friendzoned.
Be “larger than life” if you have to, and talk about the interesting things you have been doing in the mean time since you last saw her.
When you do flirt, make sure it is humorous, spontaneous, and FUN. Make sure you don’t carry on the conversation so long that it dies down into a simmer – “always leave them wanting more”.
Also, I highly recommend studying the art of conversation, so you don’t appear to be “up yourself” – just subtly steer the conversation and leave threads for her to ask more questions about. E.g. let’s say you mentioned something interesting like… you started a business.
You let her press you for more information, rather than elaborating and making yourself appear douche-y. Use your common sense and social smarts.
9.) Time is of the essence – if you see signs of attraction, act fast
… whether it’s as a friend, or romantic interest you must use this time frame wisely.
She may be open to the possibility of dating you, but it’s important to never put in more than she does… if she messages you, reply with a shorter message. Make yourself somewhat unavailable, and continue to raise her interest in you.
Your goal at this point is to spend time alone with her.
Settle for group situations if you have to, but make it clear that you want to take her out.
There is a HUGE distinction that I need to make clear here: She might still reject you… how do you get around this?
Something people of the older generation knew, but never passed on to us. Maybe it got washed out when PUA (Pick Up Artist) stuff started getting popular.
the idealogy that you should simply “next” a girl at the slightest sign of non-interest has spread like a virus through the internet, and is widely accepted by the online community of guys who study their type of game. I personally think it’s bullshit.
Anyway, I learned an interesting art form…
10.) It’s called persistence
Robert Kiyosaki, the author of Rich Dad, Poor Dad claims that he had asked his now-wife out about 20 times before she said yes.
I can’t tell you how many “older” gentlemen I have talked to, who have similar stories.
One of them is an old manager of mine at a factory. At a Xmas party about 2 years ago, we found out from his wife that she had rejected him multiple times.
They MAJOR key here is do NOT be creepy about it.
Like I mentioned earlier, this takes a lot of confidence, social prowess, and indifference to whether she says yes or no (you still want the outcome to be yes, but never push, beg, or plead with her).
Always keep your head high and your value as a person soaring so she eventually caves in and gives you a chance. You still want to attract her, so make sure to keep things funny, not-serious, and never awkward!
An EXCELLENT example of the kind of attitude you should put on is like Will on the Fresh Prince of Bel Air. Check out some videos on youtube to get an example, or download the whole series.
He never gets down about a chick.
Will: Val, what’s up baby? Today must be your lucky day!
Girl: “Why? Cause you’re not going to ask me out today?”
11.) Create positive, special memories and moments with her with this psychological trick
You need to do something called “anchoring”…
Anchoring is when you have certain feelings associated with a person. For example, do you have a friend or family member that automatically makes you feel a certain way when you see or hear from them?
Whether it’s positive or negative?
That’s what anchoring is. I have a cousin who I rarely get to speak to. But as soon as our calls connect we just start cracking up, because we got into a lot of trouble when we were younger. It’s hilarious just thinking about some of those memories as adults…
With women, it’s important to associate yourself with fun, happy, deep memories… because, when she starts thinking about you, it will begin to create what they call “butterflies”… or slowly falling in love.
You need to converse about many things openly and honestly, and discuss deeper topics in order to anchor you to her memories.
Having these special, private conversations where she can open up to you, have a laugh, cry, and feel other emotions with you is a powerful way to get into her thoughts.
While it’s good to keep it fun and light, you also need to make the romance deeper.
12.) Keep your eyes on her interest level – and stoke the fires if you have to
Sometimes, using a very small amount of jealousy goes a long way.
Have other women interested in you, but don’t “obviously” try to make her jealous.
Simply mentioning you have a date or talking about other women in front of her will switch her competitive mode on.
Even better would be being seen with other attractive women through facebook, or getting her to show up in real life some time.
You MUST be very careful with this, because you’re playing with fire…
Any interest she might have in you might either amplify her attraction, or KILL it altogether.
It really depends on how interested she is in you, or not which can tip the scale in either direction for you.
13.) Go “hot and cold” with your behavior…
Women do this to men all the time.
Most of the time, it’s because they can’t make up their mind.
But it can drive guys crazy and cause them to just explode at her, and have an outburst like a baby (why were you leading me on?!).
Now that you’ve changed your beliefs, and women are after you, if she’s still not responding that well one of the last resort things I can suggest is going “hot and cold”.
That means you’re fun and flirty one day, texting back and forth a few times… then you stop it and be cold.
This causes a lot of emotions to go flying everywhere – but at the same time create incredible tension which can break you out of friendzone by playing with the “scarcity” tactic.
You make yourself scarce, high value, and watch girls go gaga over you.
This is what “bad boys” have that nice guys don’t – an attitude that makes women feel all kinds of emotions. It’s what attracts them to all kinds of drama – including the situation with you if you pull it off just right.
Don’t you wish that you had just listened to me and gone for a woman that was interested from the get-go?
Well it’s too late for that.
These are some of my best tips for absolutely maxing out your chances at escaping friendzone.
But there’s still one more powerful piece to the puzzle…
14.) Killer pheromone combinations to help you escape friendzone
Relax – we’ve gotten to the fun part now… the actual pheromone products which can boost your chances of success even higher.
I’ve listed the products individually, but you can check out the full reviews by clicking on the links.
I’ve also noted some powerful combos you can use to amplify their effects if you choose to take it that far…
If you did all the work above, then you’ll probably want a killer product to help you win the girl over.
Let’s get this show on the road.
XiSt by PheromoneXS. It was designed for creating intense “crush” feelings from women, and getting them to fall in love.
It was developed over several years of testing and tweaking (originally called the Instant Boyfriend mix) – however the ingredients for that particular combo were discontinued.
SteveO later revived it through his own brand, PhereomoneXS…
It was designed specifically to help you escape friendzone, and “reset” feelings about you.
Women will start to slowly see you in a romantic light, and consider your boyfriend material. It’s also one of my favorite pheromone products of all time.
Bad Wolf by Liquid Alchemy Labs. Bad Wolf is designed to push your mental and emotional limits, and make you carry yourself like a real alpha male.
It’s very different from most pheromone formulas as it requires a significant shift in your mindset in order to get it to work. However, the end results will be worth the effort.
If you lack confidence to approach women, behave awkwardly in social situations, and need help getting respect in your work/career/business, etc…
… Then Bad Wolf will make you able to do those things.
It’s also a killer attraction product… but it also double as “training wheels” for developing amazing social and seduction skills.
Nude Alpha by Liquid Alchemy Labs + Androstadienone… normally, I would only recommend Nude Alpha by itself to get started – but since you want the best possible chance for a relationship with that special woman… well, I only want to improve your chances.
Nude Alpha is an outstanding product for making high quality, attractive women see you as a long term romantic partner.
You can use it to steer your interactions in a romantic way, and have women become “clingy” within hours of exposure.
Note: You can also order the androstadienone from the “unmixed pheromones” section from LAL.
L2K by Alpha Dream. If you’re looking for a product with some attitude, L2K comes jam packed with it. Originally, it was designed as a hybrid of another highly successful product – Alfa Maschio, combined with Glace (one of their social products).
Somehow, it ended up turning into a powerful, “Frankenstein” formula that was more powerful than both of them combined… it create dis-inhibition, sexual talk, and is extremely magnetic to women. They will feel so open and comfortable with you, it will be hard to resist. I’d highly recommend this if the woman you are interested in is more interested in “fun” than romance (for now) – if you can get her to bed with you, it’s much more likely to turn into a relationship.
If those products, combined with all the groundwork we did previously weren’t enough…
Well there’s always combinations that can add an additional boost to your efforts.
I highly recommend testing out the combos in different dosages, on women you don’t care about – you don’t want to experiment on a woman you actually want (just in case the combo sucks).
- Bad Wolf + XiSt
- XiSt + EvolveXS
- XiSt + TabooXS
- XiSt + SOB
- Nude Alpha + XiSt
- Nude Alpha (Liquid Alchemy Labs) + Glace (Alpha Dream)
- Grail of Affection + Alpha Treasures (check out the top rated pheromone products for a summary)
I’ll elaborate more on each in the future, but here are some ones I have used previously to get into romantic relationships, escape friendzone, and even get ex-girlfriends back.
One last thing before I close out – do NOT put the work in “tomorrow”.
Tomorrow will turn to several days, and you’ll start making excuses…
Then you’ll wish you had started making some progress the last week, month, year.
You get the picture.
It’s never too late to work on yourself – and the worst case scenario? Even after all that, if she still isn’t interested in you, you’ve hopefully moved on to getting women that ARE interested in you (especially ones that are even more attractive).
And not only that, it will be so much easier for you to date them short or long term, or whatever it is you want – because you just fought one massive uphill battle for romance.
Thank you for reading,